In this crazily confusing time of post-modern dating, the question of whether a woman should text first has many conflicting arguments. While traditional norms may have dictated dating behaviors in the past, dating apps and social media have transformed the way we communicate and form connections when it comes to gender roles. For women wondering if taking the initiative to text first is the right move, this blog post explores key considerations to help navigate this decision with confidence and clarity.
Making the First Move – Feminine Energy Empowerment
Breaking Stereotypes
Gone are the days when dating etiquette was bound by rigid rules and gender roles. Today, women are increasingly taking charge of their dating lives by breaking stereotypes and making the first move. In a post-Me Too era, men are increasingly sensitive to not wanting to come across as creepy and are sometimes not sure where the line is when it comes to appropriate behavior. Texting first as a woman can be empowering—it’s a way to express interest and take control of your romantic destiny, and it can be done while remaining in feminine energy – read on to find out how.
Confidence is Critical
Confidence is attractive, and taking the initiative to text first can be a reflection of your self-assuredness. It shows you’re not afraid to go after what you want, a quality that can be appealing to potential partners. Remember, confidence should come from the inside, reflecting your self-esteem and willingness to engage in open communication. However, you don’t want to take over the masculine role of leading and initiating too much, so we are aiming for overt encouragement, and using ‘feeling speak’, to communicate openly and from your heart space.
Humour & Fun
Remaining playful and fun, and bringing humor in is a key way to stay in feminine energy, stating your preferences, feelings, and standards in a light-hearted way all serve to encourage men to take charge and to give them the green light. Making statements such as ‘I LOVE a man who can enjoy a good phone conversation’ is a great way to invite him to take a step forward, without actually doing the work for him. Equally, speaking up about your standards and vision is powerful, you might say something like ‘You would NEVER catch me investing time and energy with a man who doesn’t have serious relationship goals – what are yours by the way?’ You may feel worried that this will scare men away, and it will, it will scare THE WRONG MEN away, which is exactly what you want to do, as early and as quickly as possible!
Assessing Interest Levels
Before you hit send, consider the dynamics of your interaction. Have there been mutual signs of interest? Was there a connection during your initial meeting or conversation? Texting first makes the most sense when there’s a baseline of mutual attraction, as it can naturally progress a budding relationship. When it comes to cold connections on dating apps we face the need for different rules – be as direct as possible and state clearly that you don’t do drawn-out texting convos, and prefer a phone call. If he doesn’t take the bait, move on!
Handling Responses (or Rejection)
Not everyone will respond the way you hope, and that’s okay. If your text is met with enthusiasm and engagement, it’s a positive sign that they’re interested in continuing the conversation. However, if you don’t receive a response, or the reply is lukewarm, it’s important not to take it personally. Dating is a process of finding someone compatible, and not every interaction will lead to a deeper connection. Face the reality of the response, don’t chase or keep messaging if there isn’t mutual energy consistently.
Listen to Your Intuition
Above all, listen to your intuition. If you feel compelled to text first, it’s likely the right choice for you at that moment. Your intuition is a powerful guide in dating, helping you navigate decisions and interactions with a sense of personal alignment and authenticity
The question of whether a woman should text first doesn’t have a one-size-fits-all answer. It depends on personal preference, the nature of your interaction, and what you’re comfortable with. In the landscape of modern dating, taking the initiative is less about breaking rules and more about expressing your authentic self and desires.
Remember, every text, and every interaction, is a step toward understanding what you seek in a relationship and how you prefer to communicate. Whether you choose to text first or wait for the other person to reach out, approach dating with confidence, openness, and a healthy dose of self-respect. After all, the right connection will appreciate you for who you are, including the boldness to text first.
